How To Be Successful In Life – Disappointment Is A Choice
Life Is A Journey With Many Rewards
True happiness comes from viewing your life as a journey to be savoured. It’s good to have goals – that focuses you and gives you a reason to get up in the morning. But don’t be so blinkered and set upon that goal that everything else ceases to exist. You’ll miss an awful lot of opportunities and good times that way.
Be aware that your path to your goal may not be straight. It may meander and backtrack – but you will get to your destination if you just keep taking small steps forward.
See challenges not problems
If things don’t go according to Plan A, don’t worry: embrace it. That way, obstacles and detours aren’t a source of anxiety, because you know you can always find another way to achieve your aim, perhaps in a slightly modified form. Flexibility itself becomes something to aim for. If you think about that for a moment, you’ll see that flexibility is a great reward. It will enable you to get over setbacks quickly and resume progress towards your goal.
Flexibility means you never see any achievement as second best. You can appreciate the achievement for its own rewards. You may find yourself being happier than you could ever have been in a blind pursuit of your original goal.
Recognize that good can come out of any situation
Sometimes it’s difficult or even impossible to find a reason for a seemingly negative occurrence. You can’t control or rationalize everything that happens in this way; but what you *can* do is control your reactions to that negative event. You *can* turn it around and make something good come out of it. You may learn new resilience and strength that you could never had learned if everything you wanted had come easily to you.
Recognize that disappointment is a choice
Nobody’s plan works out all the time, despite what they might tell you. If you get depressed about this it paralyzes you. You become trapped in the situation, unable to move forward. If you’re flexible the setback doesn’t have to defeat you. So disappointment is a choice, not a necessary response to problems.
This empowers you to step away from this negative choice of wallowing in the disappointment and get on with your life again. Allow yourself to feel sad, even angry at that disappointment, but then put your energies back into being creative and flexible and getting back on the path towards your aim.
Never be afraid to take opportunities
Don’t be so set in your direction that you miss the opportunities along the way.
Life is built out of moments
Savour them. Take pleasure in the simple things in life that are free – the love of people around you, a funny thing you see on the way to the bank – whatever it is, just enjoy it. Connect with the real world again.
Just take a moment to think about when you last gave yourself a pat on the back for something you did. You can’t remember when you last did this? Do it now! Reward yourself. That doesn’t have to be an expensive reward – although it could be! A break from work for a game of squash once you’ve written so many articles or whatever – or a lunch date with a friend – can be a reward. Enjoy it!
Every path has many rewards and many challenges
You want certain things in our lives. It’s easy to get stressed out and worried when you don’t get what you wanted. That’s the same whether it’s the path you chose or not. Life will still go on and there will be rewards you didn’t expect. There is no one right path for you to choose. You might still want the job or the book deal, but have the confidence to know that you’ll also okay if I don’t get them, because either way there will be things you’ll love about my life, and things that will challenge you.
So – life is a journey. Remember that it is the journey, not the destination, which matters the most. An aim is great, but aims can change. What is important is what you learn along the way. Grab the opportunities and the pleasure from every stage of that journey.
To your success
Andy Shaw – A Bug Free Mind