How To Be Successful In Life – Freedom From Anger
Recognize Anger in Its Disguises
Anger is possibly the most complex of all natural human emotions. It is also the most destructive. Anger is either suppressed or expressed. In most cases of conflict, anger is often obvious and can easily be determined. It can also be sneaky, however. Anger has many disguises that can’t easily be detected under the surface and this could be a challenge.
Anger, in its most obvious forms, is hard to miss. Open hostility or aggression is anger that is expressed. This includes yelling, cursing, flinging insults, accusing, name-calling, expressing contempt, and even physical attack. With obvious or overt anger, people will inevitably get hurt. Some people prefer the confrontational nature of this sort of anger because it acts as a catalyst for release; therefore, they don’t bear the burden of the conflict on their shoulders. This makes most persons feel better, though at the expense of others.
Though many types of anger are obviously expressed, others are suppressed. A person with suppressed anger can be unresponsive, overly nice, and may exaggerate certain things. They can be silent, often tired, anxious, submissive, or paranoid. Suppressed anger manifests itself in different ways.
Anger as Insecurity
To quote Dr. Robert Anthony, author of The Ultimate Secrets of Total Self-Confidence, “The angry people are those who are most afraid.” Distrust, skepticism, resentment, and jealousy are characteristics of deep-seated insecurity. Insecure people are afraid. They could be afraid of losing someone or something they love, or that someone will get them or hurt them first.
They feel the need to always be better than everyone else. Insecurity makes very angry individuals. Their fear makes them very aggressive. To a person with heightened insecurity, even the slightest thing can drive them off the wall into anxiety, jealousy, rage, or even hatred. These feelings trigger a heightened sense of bravado and may lead to violence.
If you recognize these feelings within yourself, then be very careful and consider getting help.
Anger as Depression
Fatigue, insomnia, and anxiety are common symptoms of depression. Most introverted people become depressed because bottle up their feelings of anger and inadequacy, instead of airing them.
People suffering from depression often feel, that they are perpetual victims. They are afraid to change the situation so as a result they continue to be victimized. They even go as far as blaming themselves for whatever they are going through and becoming angry with themselves.
Though it may seem that depression and anger are complete opposites, depression is often aptly described as anger turned inwards. Depressed people seem to have given up the fight, while angry people have an aggressive sense of bravado.
Beneath the surface, however, painful emotions abound. The best way to determine if you are depressed and angry is to observe how you complain. If you find yourself complaining to yourself all the time, without doing anything about it, chances are you are.
Anger can disguise itself in other emotions. Learn how to distinguish and separate them or else they will end up fueling each other.
To your success
Andy Shaw – A Bug Free Mind