How To Be Successful In Life – Freedom From Pain
Release Your Anger and Save Your Life
Confucius once said, “When anger rises, think of the consequences.” Anger is a normal emotion that we have all dealt with at some point in our lives. We, as humans, all deal with it in different ways.
Some people turn to outward aggression. Other people internalize their anger and keep it to themselves. Negativity usually surfaces when anger arises. However, anger can actually be healthy when expressed properly.
How we deal with it can save not only our lives, but also those of others.
Dealing With Anger the Negative Way
We all have a choice in how we deal with our anger. More often than not, people deal with anger destructively. This leads to anger becoming a negative emotion.
Most people turn to aggression. It may be active or passive. Some people alternate between both. Active aggressors curse, yell, or physically attack a person, sometimes even things, animals, etc. Passive aggressors are sarcastic and may quietly attack verbally with a soft voice or even a smile. They have a tendency to quietly withdraw, procrastinate, forget important details, or overeat.
Aggression is very dangerous. You usually end up hurting people, both physically and emotionally, and may even end up hurting yourself.
There are also people who internalize their anger and keep it bottled up within them. They often pretend that there’s nothing wrong and don’t strive to resolve their conflicts. Physical activity is an outlet. However, even with extreme physical activity, anger is not resolved and may even be escalated with the presence of even more angry energy. Binge eating is also another outlet and may often lead to obesity. Dealing with anger in this way is also danger as this may result to high blood pressure leading to heart attack.
Dealing With Anger Positively
There are healthy ways to deal with your anger. Here are some helpful ways in dealing with it from the bestseller Anger: Deal with It, Heal with It, Stop It from Killing You by Bill Defoore:
- Breathe and Visualize. Taking deep breaths can calm you down. Inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth. Visualize yourself in a serene and comfortable place to achieve that inner calm.
- Let loose safely. Find a safe outlet to express your anger. Write in a journal, vent your feelings to a good friend, punch a pillow, or go to a secluded place and scream as much as you like. Whatever you do, you will feel good after you’ve done it.
- Be honest with yourself. Search your soul and find out why you’re feeling so angry. Is the cause really significant or is it just something petty that you’re blowing out of proportion? Is there anything you can do about it? If not, then move on.
- Forgive and forget. Being angry is an unnecessary torture to you. However painful the event may be that led to your anger, forgiving can unburden you of a heavy load such as spite. Forgetting makes sure that negative feelings won’t resurface.
Pain is never pleasant. Hurting yourself or anybody else is never a good thing. Following these steps can ensure that your anger does not get out of hand. You may even add a thing or two. Whatever works for you, make sure that your anger does not get the best of you.
Your anger may cost much damage to other people, as well as yourself. Deal with your anger the right way and it may save your life.
To your success
Andy Shaw – A Bug Free Mind