How To Be Successful In Life – Let go of Suppressed Anger
To Suppress or To Express?
Anger is a normal and sometimes a healthy emotion experienced by all human beings periodically. Nobody is immune from anger. How it is dealt with varies with each person. You always have a choice. You can choose to take control of this wayward emotion. Or you can choose to let it get the better of you.
Anger can cause harm
Anger is, more often than not, a negative emotion, which is usually the effect of spiteful words or deeds from other people. Anger is dangerous. Anger may lead to aggression, where someone inevitably gets hurt. The harm might be physical or emotional and you might end up hurting other people or even yourself. Anger also causes high blood pressure, which may become aggravated and lead to heart attack and even death.
Suppressing Your Anger
There are people who choose to deal with their anger by suppressing it. There are many reasons why they choose to keep it to themselves. Some suppress their anger to avoid conflict, others because they have no time to deal with it. Some do it out of pride, so as not to give the other person the satisfaction of making them feel that way. These “suppressors” often turn to strenuous physical activities as an outlet.
Though these physical activities may help ease the anger somewhat, it does not totally address it. As a result, it will inevitably return, bringing more negative energy. People who suppress their anger are also likely to become binge eaters and this may lead to obesity. Suppressing your anger might keep you from hurting other people, but it doesn’t really follow that it’s the best solution. Eventually, you only end up hurting yourself.
According to the bestseller The Healing Power of Expressing Emotions by James W. Pennebaker, people who are very expressive with their anger do so because it apparently relieves them of the burden, making them feel calmer afterwards. Though expressing your anger might seem like a release, it can also cause more trouble.
There are positive ways to control your anger that can cause minimal damage. Taking the time to breathe and re-group your thoughts is one. Venting on inanimate objects or letting loose in secluded places can also help you.
Aggression, however, is a very dangerous way of expressing your anger. This includes yelling, cursing, being sarcastic, and even physically attacking somebody. Expressing your anger might make you feel good, but sometimes, it’s at the expense of other people.
Anger should neither be suppressed of expressed. The best way to deal with anger is to control it. It means taking charge of the situation and not giving in to the emotion. When a situation arises and you feel your anger mounting, hold the reins and stop the emotion from growing before it becomes too powerful. Think thoughts that are anti-anger like peace, tolerance, or anything positive that feels good.
The emotion of anger is inherent in all of us but it can be controlled. William Shenstone once said, “Anger is a great force. If you control it, it can be transmuted into a power which can move the whole world.” Yes, you can simply choose not to be angry.
Suppressed anger can keep you from hurting other people. Expressed anger can set you free at the expense of other people’s feelings. But if you learn how to control your anger, nobody needs to get hurt.
To your success
Andy Shaw – A Bug Free Mind