How To Be Successful In Life – You Feel Trapped
You’ve Come Too Far to Turn Back
If you’re thinking of turning back and going in a different direction – maybe giving up altogether – then something has gone wrong with your plans. You’ve lost the passion for your ambition and maybe you’re working harder and longer than you thought you’d have to, to achieve it. Your dream isn’t what you thought it would be and now you’re asking yourself if it’s all worth it.
In short, you’ve lost your motivation. You feel trapped. You’ve come too far but you can’t turn back now. Even if you could, you wouldn’t, because you’re determined to prove wrong all those doubters who said you couldn’t do it.
You wouldn’t have started out on achieving your aim if you didn’t really think you could do it. Now all you’ve got to do is prove to yourself that you can achieve your aim, and all that takes is a few small steps in the right direction.
Motivation is the key to all success
You need to get that motivation back so it’s time to re-assess your aim. Why is it not inspiring you anymore? What did you want and why did you want it? Are those still the things you want? Until you can convince yourself that you really want to achieve that aim, getting back your motivation will always be an uphill battle.
There are a few things, which may have happened to make you change your mind about an aim. There’s no shame in that. Only you can decide what you want to do with your life and you have the right to change paths any time you want.
Ask yourself what your aim is
Is the aim high enough? If not, make it higher. Allow yourself to dream a bit and see yourself as successful. What would be the next thing you’d want to achieve? – Make *that* your aim. Make it exciting, colour the dream, populate it with people – customers, friends – anything to make it feel real to you. Tell yourself you can do it – you just need to plan for it.
Is your aim too high? Then plan the first few steps along the path to achieving that aim. These things need to be achievable – and quickly. Once you’re moving in the right direction again, your motivation will return.
Write your aim down and again add to it. Read it every day. Make it real, as if it’s already happened in your mind. Imagine yourself having achieved that aim – every day. How good would that feel?
Now you’ve got a clear aim again, you can set about achieving it.
Make your targets SMART
Remember your targets need to be SMART (specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and timed). To make them so, split your targets into small parts you can achieve quickly. That will help to build your confidence again and give you some impetus to carry on.
Stephen Covey in ‘Beginning With The End In Mind’ (1990) argues that it is vital to make your destination real, massive, and memorable; then you should work backwards, setting small, manageable targets that need to be achieved along the way – until you arrive at today. That way your brain begins to realize how you can achieve this aim.
You can split up what you need to do to achieve your aim into targets for 6 months, 1 month, 1 week – but then you need to split that down further. What do you need to do *today*? Doing just one thing towards your aim every day will get you there. You’ll soon find yourself achieving several targets in one day once you’ve raised your confidence again.
So don’t ‘turn back’ – *look* back
You’ve come too far to turn back. Review your progress every once in a while – say every week – and see how far you’ve come. That should help to keep your motivation – and your dream – alive.
To your success
Andy Shaw – A Bug Free Mind